Here Be Dragons.

Lena, she/her, 21, German.

This started out as a fandom blog, now it's a mix of all kinds of things.

I don't have an about page, but this tag does an alright job of summing me up.

I'm also almost always up for talking to strangers on the internet, so feel free to send me an ask!

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I can only note that the past is beautiful because one never realises an emotion at the time. It expands later, and thus we don’t have complete emotions about the present, only about the past. —Virginia Woolf (via petrichour)

catceleste:

hey can someone send me some recs for novel-length fics that are specific to my stringent tastes and are completed with an ending i approve of

melifair:

thegalacticarchitect:

nedahoyin:

queenqueerqutie:

Martin Bauendahl

Real life vs Societal expectations

Wow..

HOLY THIS

OMG even when I was a young, they were never as perky as on the right!

And you know what sucks, I’m self conscious over my own freaking boobs (and nobody but me and my doctor has ever seen my boobs!!!) because society tells us they should look like the taped breast in the picture. Well, maybe some do, but the majority vary greatly, and then there’s gravity to contend with.

I’m glad this picture exists, because while some women may meet the perky breast standard of beauty (and that’s great, nothing wrong with that whatsoever, your boobs grew that way - awesome) a lot of women don’t fit that standard and it’s well, it’s normal to vary. Our boobs grew to be the awesome boobs they are too.

ink-phoenix:

Alright kids, let’s talk about coping mechanisms.

There are multiple kinds of coping mechanisms. Generally they can be grouped under ‘healthy’ and ‘unhealthy.’

Notice how I didn’t say ‘good’ or ‘bad’?

Because often a coping mechanism is developed when someone’s drowning and they’re trying to stay alive. We develop our ways to fight back, to deal, to survive, at the best of our abilities whilst trying to process and deal with our trauma. 

I’m not endorsing self-harm. I’m not endorsing drug use. I’m not endorsing any of a million different unhealthy ways I’ve seen people rely on as a manner of coping. 

But for fuck’s sake, do not blame a trauma survivor for how they cope with said trauma. That won’t fucking help anyone. That will make them feel nothing but shame, pain, guilt, reinforce that they’re at fault, that they’re fucked up, irremediably fucked up.  

You know what you can do? Help them. Help them find better ways to cope. Suggest a therapist, and if they’re not open to the idea just then, don’t push. Try again later. Be there for them if you can. And do not, do not make them feel guilty for how they are coping. Reinforce the fact that their coping mechanisms, however unhealthy, helped them get there. Helped them make it through. Kept them alive. Try and remind them they are worth more than they can see. That they are more than the sum of their parts. Make them feel accepted, and loved no matter what they did to themselves while they tried to survive. 

They survived and your job as a friend, as a support group, is not to belittle them for how they managed to do it, but to be there for them, and help them bridge the gap to a healthier way of coping, dealing, healing, and getting to a better place.

I repeat, there’s no such thing as a bad coping mechanism. You cope. That’s the point of it. If someone you love is using an unhealthy coping mechanism, be gentle; be kind; be patient. Try to show them they don’t have to do use that anymore, point them towards better ways to handle it. Allow them to be angry, and lash out, and feel righteous in their fury. Remember words can break people. Be aware of the damage you can do. Ask about triggers.

And if you can’t stick it through, that is also a prerogative of yours. Everyone needs to do what they have to do to protect themselves, and nobody should set themselves on fire to keep someone else warm. There can come a point where you need to cut someone out, especially if the person refuses help, and the relationship has become one sided, or abusive - which is why you should try, as much as you can, to help them get to a therapist, to get professional help. Friends aren’t therapists. They’re the supporting crutches, not the casts for the broken bones. 

But for the love of god, don’t make a trauma survivor feel guilty for what they did to survive. 

They survived. That’s accomplishment enough.

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#reminder to self

thetrevorproject:

gaywrites:

It’s Bi Visibility/Celebrate Bisexuality Day! Learn more and find ways to celebrate in your community here. Fellow bisexuals, I salute you! 

Happy Bisexual Awareness Week!

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#konfetti!
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#you and me both mulan

beeinherbonnet:

A cosmic wedding suite inspired by colourful nebulas and astronomy diagrams.

Watercolour and digital

viria:

I heard it was Hinny ship week

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#harry potter #art attack!

gayfandomblog:

dangercupcakemurdericing:

Sometimes I’m internally like “How is that a trigger?, ” then I realize other people have different life experiences from me, they don’t owe me their story, and I move the fuck on.

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myersandbriggs:

Here Is The One Perfect Book For Every Single Myers-Briggs Type

ISFP - Fairy Tales from the Brothers Grimm - Philip Pullman

ISFJ - When I Was A Child I Read Books - Marilynne Robinson

ISTP - The Gunslinger - Stephen King

ISTJ - The Red Badge of Courage - Stephen Crane

ENFP - Vampires in the Lemon Grove - Karen Russell

ENFJ - Behind the Beautiful Forevers - Katherine Boo

ENTP - Both Flesh and Not - David Foster Wallace

ENTJ - Atlas Shrugged - Ayn Rand

ESFP - MaddAddam - Margaret Atwood

ESFJ - Stay Me, Oh Comfort Me - M.F.K. Fisher

ESTP - The Adventures of Sherlock Holmes - Arthur Conan Doyle

ESTJ - The Art of Winning an Unfair Game - Michael Lewis

INFP - Levels of Life - Julian Barnes

INFJ - The Marriage Plot - Jeffrey Eugenides

INTP - Brave New World - Aldous Huxley

INTJ - Labyrinths - Jorge Luis Borges

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